In today’s professional environment, it seems like more and more factors of daily life can come to significantly influence one’s on-the-job performance. Of course, productivity and efficiency are encouraged by harmony and understanding – and if that applies for what goes on at the office, shouldn’t it also be true of what’s happening at home? Common sense says it should, yet several recent domestic scandals have proven that it doesn’t always go without saying that a troubled home will end in a failed work life. It all notoriously started with the Bill Clinton-Monica Lewinski debacle. That was among the first times the public opinion was focused on the influence that personal scandals have on professional careers. As we all now know, the event may have marked the end of Bill Clinton’s political career, but, at the same time, it certainly helped propel Hilary’s. So, then, where does the truth lie: does marriage ruin careers or are the two not that related? Read on to hear what the experts have to say, then tell us your own opinion in the comment section.
The Abedin-Weiner scandal – Marriage ruins careers, but not always
Huma Abedin started climbing the career ladder right out of college. Soon thereafter, she became Hilary Clinton’s personal assistant, during Clinton’s stay at the White House as First Lady. Abedin went on to marry Anthony Weiner, one of the United States’ most popular liberals, with a visible screen presence on C-SPAN. The blissful marriage of the two up-and-coming politicos seemed to hit an impasse when it was discovered that Weiner was in the habit of texting women (some of them random, some of them familiar) graphic pictures of his genitalia. He resigned his job, but did not divorce Abedin. After a while, he ran for mayor in New York City and many were surprised to see that his wife was fully supporting him. It all seemed peachy for the couple, until the press got wind of the fact that Weiner had reprised his habit once more, even during the electoral campaign. When Hilary Clinton announced her 2016 campaign for president, she made no secret out of the fact that she would make Abedin choose between the campaign and her husband. Yet even if the two do divorce, now they also have a child together, which means they will have to co-parent and thus stay connected for the years to come. In the Weiner-Abedin case, it cannot be argued beyond any shadow of a doubt that marriage ruins careers, yet it is interesting to see how Huma’s own career evolves from this point onward.
The toll of divorces
According to some recent statistics, couples in which both spouses hold a college degree have the lowest rate of divorce among all demographics – it stands at a mere 3 per cent, in a country where more and more marriages seem to be falling apart. Some explain this via the financial argument. It may or may not be true that marriage ruins careers, but it certainly holds that a divorce will completely throw both partners off kilter financially. Aside from no longer splitting bills and sharing two income sources, divorces also come with legal expenses and, often enough, child support and settlement costs. If it happened to popular Hollywood actor Robin Williams, it’s safe to say it can happen to anyone. Recently, the star said his two divorces had forced him to go back to acting in sitcoms, which he hadn’t done since the earliest days of his career.
Always weigh your options
It’s usually a good idea to consider both the pros and the cons of staying in a marriage which has hit a sore spot. This is not just because marriage ruins careers, or divorce destabilizes one’s budget. It’s also because both marriages and divorces come with their specific set of limitations, which can come to hinder one from focusing on their career the way they should be. At face value, a divorce might look liberating and empowering, allowing you more time to focus on your own goals, ambitions, and needs. On the other hand, though, separating from a spouse, when a child is also involved, means you will henceforth have to adapt your schedule to that of your former partner. This can be taxing, on your time, money, and energy. So, in a nutshell, before jumping to conclusions, such as the fact that marriage ruins careers, consider if a divorce wouldn’t do even more damage.